Tradition 3: The only requirement for COSA membership is that our lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior. The members may call themselves a COSA group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation.

Here is the link to the recording on Tradition 3:
http://www.facingabuse.com/cosa/Traditions1-2-3.mp3

And here is a short reading:

Tradition 3 tells us that there is nothing that qualifies us more or less than one another and no further qualification needed than that our lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior. This means that if I believe I belong here, then I do! And if someone else believes they belong here, then they do! I don’t have to try to figure anyone else out or hand people a test; I can just accept that if they have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior, no matter their life situation, gender identity, sexuality, past, present, or future, they belong just as I do!

It also tells us that a COSA group is a group whose only requirement is the above and whose affiliation is only with COSA. I think we get into some of the nuances in the recording, but if not, this is a real example of Keeping It Simple. In order to abide by the simplest requirement for membership (having been affected by compulsive sexual behavior), we also need to make sure that we have no affiliations which might jeopardize the simplicity of the requirement. So, you don’t have to be affected by compulsive sexual behavior and also be American and right-handed to be a part of the group, because a COSA group cannot also be a Right-Handers-of-America group (which I’m fairly certain doesn’t exist, so apologies if it does!)

Tradition 3 helps us to recognize the importance of welcoming all newcomers, no matter who they are. If they have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior, they qualify for membership, so let’s welcome them in!

Please let us know if you have any questions!