What Step 3 Is:
In Step Three, we make a decision to turn our will and our lives — also known as our thoughts, feelings, and actions — over to the care of God as we understand God.
Here the story of three frogs on a log applies: Three frogs were on a log. All three made a decision to jump. How many frogs were left on the log? All three! They made the decision but didn’t take the action. All we are doing here in the Third Step is making the decision. Working the rest of the Steps is where our decision turns into action!
We say something to our Higher Power to commit to this. You can say “God, help!” or you could say something more formal or you could say something from your heart to your Higher Power.
What Is Optional:
Some of us have wanted to wait until we have perfectly “finished” this Step before we wanted to move to Step Four. For example, Dani assumed that she had to wait until she was perfectly asking for God’s will and following it in her life before moving on in the Steps. Not so! At this stage, you are making the decision; you haven’t yet begun to implement it!
You also don’t have to have a relationship or repair a relationship with a Higher Power. You don’t have to “choose a religion”. You don’t have to heal your relationship with your previous spiritual path or your previous religion.
Furthermore, you don’t have to call your Higher Power “God” (but you can if you like!) or Higher Power or anything at all. Sometimes people even talk about “God as we didn’t understand God”, because you don’t have to know who or what God is in order to do this Step! You will get to know your Higher Power as you work the rest of the Steps, especially in Step 11, which is part of the daily part of the Program.