Unlike the steps, there is no “homework” associated with any of the concepts or traditions. They are just principles that we learn to incorporate into our everyday lives.
The 1st Concept of Service:
Final responsibility and ultimate authority for COSA world services should always reside in the collective conscience of our whole Fellowship.
That means that COSA groups, and COSA as a whole, are all run by YOU. Decisions are made by a vote — no one person is ever in charge. Every year, at COSA’s annual convention, we get delegates from the COSA meetings together to discuss and vote on what COSA will do over the following year. So even at the biggest possible level, everything is about making sure you are represented and that we are coming together as a fellowship — unity again! The 1st Concept of Service also teaches us about how being of service is an expression of our love for a person or organization.
The first chunk of this workshop recording is on Concept 1:
The 1st Tradition:
Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon COSA unity.
Unity is very important in our fellowship. For many of us, COSA has literally saved our lives.
The 12 Traditions are guidelines we use to run our meetings and to run COSA as a whole. They are also important principles for our personal lives. One explanation of the Traditions is that it is a list of the mistakes that we make in our relationships with others (or of the things to do to avoid those mistakes)!
We often feel a lot of shame, and isolate ourselves from others, when our lives have bee affected by compulsive sexual behavior. This tradition, in part, teaches us to commit to the group, to the fellowship as a whole, and to the program that saves our lives. It reminds us that unity – working together with other members – is paramount to our recovery.
The flip side of this is that we can’t just work together with others to learn the program — we also have to work with others who need our help, so that we ourselves can grow and so that the fellowship can grow in numbers and sanity. We have to be of service, whether it’s putting chairs out at a meeting or starting one! There is only one paid worker in COSA — our central office manager. Everything else is done by members. COSA is here for each of us because each of us is here for COSA.
We can easily apply these ideas to our work lives and personal relationships. If we expect the other person/people to carry the load, and make them responsible for the health of the relationship/organization, we will soon learn the importance of unity… the hard way!
The first chunk of this workshop recording is on Tradition 1: